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Struggling Single Woman

I would say that my ex husband drained me mentally, emotionally, but mainly financially. I have worked for 7 years, and was lucky enough to purchase my own home, but in the midst of it, I had made the mistake by not signing a prenuptial agreement of any kind, and have put my own future at risk, by adding his name to the title as well, in hopes of proving my dedication and commitment to him. However, for the longest time I have been gaslit, manipulated, groomed, lied to on the regular, and was abused by this narcissist man. During our divorce, he would not make an amicable separation, and I was forced to hire an attorney with the money I did not have. I used a credit card for this. On top of this I had to pay him the settlement fee for him to give up his rights to the condo I purchased (I provided the entire down payment and had paid over 90% of the bills and expenses to keep the unit). This has already put me at a loss, but what really stopped me from working in hospitality was my occupational injury which made it really hard for me to lift, pull, push or carry heavy items, which has been a part of my daily routine at work. I had to go through therapy, and I had received no compensation for that either. So now I am out tens of thousands of dollars, have limited work ability, and am having a hard time making ends meet by constantly getting late fees, and interest charges on purchases every single month on every single of my credit cards. I need a fresh start, but I feel like instead of starting from zero, I would be starting from less than that. It is really hard to stay motivated, when you know the next few years you will have to work hard just to pay off these debts that had mostly occurred because of an abusive relationship that was difficult to leave. I had thought of it countless times, but I have pets, and I knew how vengeful this man is, and was in fear he would harm my pets or me, considering he had already attempted to unalive one of my pets by drowning him in water. The story goes on and I don't want to bother much, unless needed. But any contribution will help me greatly and I will forever be thankful.Stay blessed.